Rubina Dilaik Recalled Being Body Shamed on The Sets of Her first Show in 2008, Sharing How It Forced Her to Be on a Soup-Only diet For a year, following which, on her second
“I was called chubby. I used to wonder … .i has baby fat here and there. EK director ne camera ke peeche se chillakar bola that, ‘aey yeh seb ke beti kaha se lekar aaye ho … waapis bhejo himachal mein… isko na chalna aur dikhti bhi golmat. Yeh set par aapka pehla show hai, and koi aapko aapke look ke liye…(Once a director shouted where you got her from, send her back to Himachal (Native Place) .. It stains your memory to an extent that I went on boiled spinach soup and nutri (diet) for one complete year and I pledged to myself that I am going to size to size zero, and I am achieik said on Her Her Her. podcast Kisine bataya nahi.
Admitting that she “looked so sick and pale” in her second show, the 37-not-ald continned: “My energies were so down. That phase … if I look back… I am like… what I think I was shembody … To embrace myself. Kisine nahi bataya, aap apne me khoobsurat hai. (No one told us that you are beautiful in the way you are). I was 19-20 when I came, and I had come from the mountains… having grown up on ghee, milk, curd ...golmatol bachcha hai… WH Freshness Thi… in My Second Show, My Cheekbones Used To Be Visible… My Waist Was Snatched… but It was Glowing Effect… It is a long time to get out of. I don’t want that comparison On my children now… “
Drawing on her experience, let’s explore how body shaming can have a profound impact on people.
Psychotherapist Delnna Rrajesh has worked with hundreds of women who still flinch when they look in the mirror. “Not because they dislike their body. But because someone else told them they should, “Said delnna.
In a world where a woman’s world is still measured in inches and filters, the scars of body-shaming of go unseen. “But they run deep. Especially when the pressure comes during our most formative yesers – 19, 20, just stepping into adulthood. Instead of being welcomed with Warmth, we are ridicles, meid, starved in, starved in.” Delnna, stressing that is just about the television or entrtainment; It happens in school corridors, college classrooms, and our homes. “Our body, which was just a vibrant, nourished, living expression of you, slowly becomes a battleground of punishment,” Described Delnna.
What happens when you body-shamed?
Psychologically, it creates a split between self and self-journey. You begin to look at your body not as a home, but as a problem to be fixed.
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The result? “Soup-Only Diets. Overexercise. Social Withdrawal. Shame Spirals. Issue Was never the body. It was the emotional rejection. The pain of not being enough, “Said delnna.
What’s the healing antidote?
*Reclaim your relationship with food – not as reward or punishment, but as nourishment.
*Grieve the version of you that was unloved – especially when your younger self was told she was too much or too little.
*Shift the focus from appearance to aliveness.
*Ask yourself: What make me feel radiant, not just look smaller?
*And most importantly… stop outsourcing your confidence. “Every time we base our self-work on someone else’s approval-a director, partner, parent, instagram comments, etc.
“Rubina’s story is not just hers. It’s a mirror for many. women WHO WERE MADE TO FEEL THEY HAD to change to be loved. But beauty is not creating by diet. It’s created by safety. By self-respect. By choosing to be gentle with your body …